"Anyone over 30 belongs to me - bisexual, male, female, gay, whatever."
A quote from the 80s pop music icon Adam Ant from his interview with the Guardian tabloid in 2002. The topic in this section is about male bisexuality, or the preference not to even have to claim it, but just accept it for yourself only. No labels are necessary!
It covers quotes from celebrities, and even from a forum I was a member of years ago, from regulars, when male sexual experiences with males wasn't something you'd admit back then.
👍American writer Gore Vidal stated:
"Actually, there is no such thing as a homosexual person, any more than there is such a thing as a heterosexual person. The words are adjectives describing sexual acts, not people. The sexual acts are entirely normal; if they were not, no one would perform them."
👍Here's a fun quote from the war time-modern day comedy Goodnight Sweetheart when Yvonne, the wife of the main character Gary, suspected her husband of Infidelity with another man, said:
"It is a well known fact 20% of married men are bisexual." (Episode 2, Season 2, 1995).
👍Even in the animal world there is plenty of it going on.
Giraffes:
Gay sex accounts for 94% of all observed sexual activity in giraffes. Male giraffes have a unique way of flirting (and to occasionally show dominance) that is seen nowhere else on Earth. It is ‘necking’. Two males stand side by side, and gently rub their necks on each other’s body, head, neck, loins and thighs. In some sessions this goes on for as long as hour. This leads to arousal. Sometimes they mount each other to finish each other off. But this isn’t what a couple of guy giraffes do when the girls aren’t around. With both male and female giraffes present, males like to start necking with other males and often disregard any females present.
Sea Lions:
More than 80% of New Zealand Sea Lion males exclusively mate with other males. This normally results as a component of play-fighting, in which two males stand chest to chest and push against each other. Once one has achieved ‘superiority’, they will mount the weaker one. This is often why younger sea lions are more likely to mount the older males.
Killer Whales:
While it seems like most animal mating seems to be as a result of some mounting, almost 90% of gay behaviour in killer whiles is reciprocated. One third to more than one half of all male killer whales engage in gay sex, especially prevalent among the adolescents. Some male partners have a favorite with whom they interact with year after year.
👍Here are some other male celebrities open to their sexuality:
Jason Mraz
The world knows Mraz for his love songs, but he wants the world to know his love is bisexual.
"I’ve had experiences with men, even while I was dating the woman who became my wife. It was like, ‘Wow, does that mean I am gay?’” the singer-songwriter told Billboard this year, at age 41. "And my wife laid it out for me. She calls it ‘two spirit,’ which is what the Native Americans call someone who can love both man and woman. I really like that.”
Two spirit is a term that Native Americans consider their own, meaning one who embodies both masculine and feminine identities, and some objected to Mraz using it. He later apologized for doing so and thanked commenters for the clarification. But Mraz continues to identify as bi and penned an open letter to the LGBTQ community that read:
We still have a long way to go
But know
I am bi your side.
All ways.
Billie Joe Armstrong
The rocker is known best for being the front man of Green Day, but he's also been outspoken about his bisexuality.
In 1995, he told The Advocate, "I think I've always been bisexual. I mean, it's something that I've always been interested in. I think people are born bisexual, and it's just that our parents and society kind of veer us off into this feeling of 'Oh, I can't.' They say it's taboo. It's ingrained in our heads that it's bad, when it's not bad at all. It's a very beautiful thing."
Ezra Miller
The 25-year-old actor is one of the most prominent bisexual faces in young Hollywood.
"The way I would choose to identify myself wouldn't be gay. I've been attracted mostly to 'shes' but I've been with many people and I'm open to love wherever it can be," Miller told The Daily Beast in 2012 when promoting The Perks of Being a Wallflower, in which he played a teen bullied for being gay. "I think a lot of people are projecting their own troubles and fears concerning sexuality onto those around them, and it does result in the perpetuation of a lot of hateful notions."
Shane Dawson
In 2015, YouTuber Shane Dawson announced his bisexuality to his 6.7 million subscribers. Now he has nearly 17 million. Dawson has been open about how difficult it is to be in the bi community. “This last year is when it really hit me,” he said in his coming-out video. “I always wished that I was gay, that I was 100 percent gay.”
A quote from his twitter account: thank u guys for the support. i know "bisexual" is something that gets made fun of & its scary to talk about it but just know u arent alone.
Alan Cumming
You may know Cumming as Eli Gold on The Good Wife or the actor playing TV's first gay leading character on Instinct, but he's also one of bisexuality's biggest advocates. Romantically, he had an eight-year marriage to actress Hilary Lyon and a two-year relationship with actress Saffron Burrows. Now he's married to graphic artist Grant Shaffer.
"I see a worrying trend among LGBT people, that if you identify yourself in just one way, you close yourself off to other experiences. My sexuality has never been black and white; it’s always been gray. I’m with a man, but I haven’t closed myself off to the fact that I’m still sexually attracted to women," he told The Advocate in 2015.
Harry Styles
Harry Styles has been with both men and women, at least if every lyric in his songs is to be believed. In a new tune he debuted at his AccorHotels Arena Paris show Tuesday, the former One Directioner broached the idea of a duality in his love life. The singer performed a new track, "Medicine," which has a line that says, “The boys and the girls are in, I’ll mess around with them, and I’m okay with it.”
The Sun points out the lyric comes less than one year after Styles told the outlet he wouldn’t label his sexuality. “No, I’ve never felt the need to really," he said. "No, I don’t feel like it’s something I’ve ever felt like I have to explain about myself. It’s weird for me—everyone should just be who they want to be. It’s tough to justify somebody having to answer to someone else about stuff like that.”
Styles has been quietly dating model Camille Rowe at the time.
Morrisey (The Smiths)
Repeatedly, interviewers asked Morrissey if he was gay, which he denied. In response to one such inquiry in 1985, he stated that:
"I don't recognise such terms as heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, and I think it's important that there's someone in pop music who's like that. These words do great damage, they confuse people and they make people feel unhappy so I want to do away with them."
As his career developed, there was increased pressure placed on him to come out of the closet, although he presented himself as a non-practicing bisexual In a 1989 interview, he revealed that he was "always attracted to men and women who were never attracted to me" and thus he did not have "relationships at all".
In 2013, he released a statement which said, "Unfortunately, I am not homosexual. In technical fact, I am humasexual. I am attracted to humans. But, of course ... not many."
Terry Hall, (The Specials and Fun Boy Three) who recently passed away, related his own experiences, albeit in a traumatic way:
"At 12 I got abducted by a paedophile ring in France and that was a real eye-opener," he said.
Herring asked: "But how do you even begin to overcome something like that?"
Hall replied: "Valium. And then I fancied David Essex which was a bit wonky, but it was like, so I kind of connected the two.
"But then I've started discovering girls and you just forget about it, it's too short."
Radio and tv Broadcaster Zoe Ball's son Woody and ex England football icon Paul Gascoigne's son Regan are also bi. They came out this year.
The former swimmer Harry Needs wants people to know that being bisexual isn't "a gateway to becoming gay" or about "being greedy".
The 28-year-old was married to two-time Olympic champion Rebecca Adlington. They split in 2016, but remain friends and continue to co-parent their five-year-old daughter, Summer.
Harry speaks about growing up knowing he was attracted to both sexes, his marriage to Becky, and having his first same-sex relationship.
0 Exclusively heterosexual
1 Predominantly heterosexual
2 Mainly heterosexual but sometimes homosexual
3 Bisexual
4 Mainly homosexual but sometimes heterosexual
5 Predominantly homosexual
6 Exclusively homosexual
For me personally I would say most men are 1 or 2. And even then at any time a person can go up the scale to 6 and even OFF the scale because of passion of the moment, and then back down again to your default number. This feeling of sexual fluidity is unchangeable, even like the animal world where it is perfectly normal.
👍People are more accepting of the fluidness of their sexuality today, especially female celebrities who seem to use it as a social statement, a kind of womens liberation from the male controlled world in which we live. Although if they think they can also titillate men in music videos and lyrics with scenes of bi-flirtation just because the so called male "heterosexual" Industry encourages it, then they are not freeing themselves from men at all. They are pandering to them. And in fact, it's also one reason for straight males behaviour, because they are not as emotionally as mature as women because of societies emotional constraints their culture has placed on them. So they use women to fill that vaccum. But these men do not care about women anyway. Women are there as a money making product.
The other side of it, is why a "straight" man needs to encourage it in females when he himself claims to be heterosexual? It's laughable. These men, and women, in positions of influence should be more responsible. The women also lose self respect from the majority of the decent men who don't live in their world. But bi leaning men do not need to make statements about their sexuality, although it is because we live in a straight male dominated world that doesn't reward bisexuality in males as it does in females. And one thing I've felt with my own sexuality is I do not need the false bravado over women because I am comfortable in my own skin. Which again makes so called "straight" men even more laughable and suspicious to me.
👍The Kinsey Studies gave some very revealing facts about male sexuality in this link. Also other surveys on the genders sexuality are listed up to 2011:
👍Some comments I have found on websites of men's own experiences of bisexuality, including one female observation:
👉Sansacro
In my experience, for what it’s worth, most men who are actually bisexual publicly identify as straight, because they can and there’s more cultural power as a self-identified straight man. But it seems younger, socially privileged guys are more comfortable exploring their sexual fluidity. Although there remains power in being a straight man in this world.
👉James
I like sex with women and men but I don’t find it helpful to think of myself as fitting into any of the existing labels or categories because they all feel constrictive. I might feel more ‘gay’ one day but more ‘straight’ on another. I think without labels people might just be attracted to other people and sex could just be sex. Bisexuality is far more common that people would realize. Most bisexuals rarely fully understand their own sexuality and usually dismiss feelings they don't recognize.
👉Ian Faus
I find it odd how female bisexuality is taken as "natural" but male bisexuality is taken with such skepticism ? Females are less prone to sexual stereotyping and social sexual programing about sex. For this they are fortunate. Modern culture dumps hetrosexuality like a flood on society, thus male bisexuality will always be something "fringe" because of this. Perhaps in a few more decades, when people move past sexuality to define each other, more bisexuals will understand themselves better.
👉AndyPhx
Humans are sexual beings. No one can argue with that. I know from personal experience that many straight men will have an attraction to a few men in their lifetime. Doesn't make them gay. It's just human nature. Someone made the comment that a little or a lot a beer uncomplicates this for many men which is also true. Very true. The men who protest the most are the one's who know this is absolutely true.
👉Bejayech
I would agree that all have some degree of attraction. The difference between a heterosexual man and a homosexual man isn't purely attraction, rather its which gender he chooses to pursue.
👉grant06
I am always amused when I read about people being lumped into catagories. When it comes to humans. there are no absolutes. The whole species is a behavioral bell curve that varies over time and individual experience. Some folks are born very gay, some very hetero, and a whole bunch are in-between. To make it more fun, for any specific individual their attractions may change dramatically as they age. Where as a fifteen year old male may be attracted to a thirteen year old female, that same male when sixty, may be more attracted to women much closer to his age group or even another of the same sex.
👉Ceasar Ol
Please, they were just being sensitive to the church and religious freaks...baby steps, they have to slowly introduce to them new concepts...they are having a hard time swallowing the gay concept, imagine when they find out there are a lot more bisexual men than gay men. Let alone that they have been around from day one and that about 25% of men claim to have bisexual tendencies but many are too afraid to act on it. Or maybe the church is just in denial because if anyone has seen porn they have seen girls getting it on. But that is of course not "gay", it's the good gay. Or like Tedd Haggard said..."no no I'm not gay...I just have homosexual attachments". One fact for sure, all bisexual men live heterosexual lives and the bisexual side is very in the closet as they are afraid to be categorized as gay, which is the reason why most bi men don't talk about it to avoid the stigma.
👉Raymond McCue
Bisexual guy here living a "bisexual" life, here. There are definitely a lot of queer men on the down low. Also, it's been my experience that gay men have a very hard time accepting bisexuality. To my estimation, bisexuality undermines the "it's not a choice argument" and my own personal experience undermines the "there's no way back, once you're gay, you're gay" idea. These tenants are important to the gay community, so I believe they try to force bisexual men into the fold because the alternative, acceptance, is uncomfortable.
👉Charlotte Bonnie
Well, for me the definition of a bisexual is someone who is capable of being attracted to both sexes and have relations with both sexes. If a gay guy fell in love with a woman later in life then he was bisexual to begin with, not gay. I know many bisexuals don't admit they are bisexuals because in the lesbian & gay community they are looked with suspicion so they hide their true sexuality in their their gay and lesbian social circle.
👉WoodyCPM
What has confused the issue of genuine bisexuality is the personal and societal effects of homophobia. People are raised to be straight because that is the cultural norm and the cultural expectation. Out gay men are particularly suspicious of claims to "I'm straight" or "I'm bisexual" for this reason, because they themselves have believed and said the same thing. The closet confuses and complicates so many issues of sexuality.
There is also the quite justifiable resentment that gay men feel toward bisexual men because they have tended in the long hard struggle for equal sexual rights to not put their mojo on the line like gay men have. It's easier for them to disappear into the world of heterosexuality and pretend that they don't have a dog in that fight. IN THE PAST, they have tended to not show up for the work of winning freedoms and rights for homosexuals.
👉NoSillyNamae
Same with bi women. I've known lesbians who say they "hate" bi women. They don't trust them and feel that they, too, like to "pass", as bi men can.
👉Matthew Robertson
Actually Bonobo monkeys are highly bisexual. Almost the entire species is. The females rub their clitorises together and the males rub the penises together.
👉Itsasmallworld
I have always believed that if society was as accepting of men being bisexual as they are of women a lot more guys out there would admit to it. I see things changing...I have a feeling that in the next 5-10 years male bisexuality will be just as mainstream as female bisexuality. I have to say myself and many female friends of mine find men to be very sexy and imagining them together such as many men fantasize about women ...hot.
👉An anonymous person wrote:
We share over 90% of DNA with some primates none of which are monogamous and all have polyamerous relationships. Why is it a surprise that some humans do not have the same instincts? other mans reply: not instincts but weaknesses.
👍Straight men who have sex with other men (SMSM)
A population of males who avoid involvement with the LGBT community, who are often married or romantically involved with an opposite-sex partner, who engage in sex with males or express the desire to do so, and, most relevant to this posting, do not identify as gay or bisexual. Other men, in contrast, identify as bisexual even if they do not engage in same-sex sexual activity. Until recently studies typically included just one dimension of sexual orientation - attraction, behavior, and self-identification - but it is increasingly clear that sexual behavior does not necessarily correlate with sexual identity and attraction. McCabe and colleagues have repeatedly called for studies to include all dimensions of sexuality.
👍Bisexuality is defined as “the capacity for emotional, romantic, and/or physical attraction to more than one sex or gender. That capacity for attraction may or may not manifest itself in terms of sexual interaction.” The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force reminds health-care providers that “A bisexual orientation speaks to the potential, but not the requirement, for involvement with more than one gender. This involvement may be sexual, emotional, in reality and/or in fantasy. Some bisexuals may be monogamous, some may have concurrent partners, others may relate to different sexes/genders at various periods of time and others still maybe celibate.” In the word of Robyn Ochs, a candid bi-activist, “I have the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree”.
👍Traditionally, sexual orientation has been viewed as a dichotomy, with the options being either heterosexuality or homosexuality. Those who did not fit into these two groups were ignored, elided, and rarely taken into consideration. During the middle of the 20th century Alfred Kinsey and his colleagues enlightened the fields of psychology and sexology when they proposed that sexuality occurs along a continuum and that the orientation of an inestimable number of people sits somewhere between the two poles. During the 1970s, Fritz Klein elaborated on Kinsey’s work and developed his eponymous Klein Grid, a method for describing a person’s sexual orientation in a much more detailed and nuanced manner. The Klein Grid investigates sexual orientation in the past, the present, and in the idealized future (i.e., a prediction as to what one thinks he or she will like in the future) with respect to each of seven factors consisting of sexual attraction, sexual behavior, sexual fantasies, emotional preference, social preference, heterosexual/homosexual lifestyle, and self-identification.
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